Mental Break for my Spirit

MENTAL BREAK

As I get older, I am learning to stop and slow down. Life gets so busy and hectic at times and every now and then, I believe it is healthy to get away from the hustles of life. People today find themselves wrapped up in the chaos of jobs, marriages, raising children. To the point they forget about the pleasantries in life. The beauty of nature. The riches in LIVING!!! We spend so much time trying to make money to buy things that don’t add any significant value to our lives. People never stop to think a clear thought anymore. There are millions of things going on inside our heads and it becomes a challenge trying to process and retain this information. There comes a time when we need to stop and remember to breathe.

Lately, I’ve been under a lot of pressure in many of the previously mentioned areas. I am even facing issues concerning my health that are overwhelming. So I did the very thing I am writing about- I stopped and remembered to breathe!

My hubs decided to treat me to a weekend getaway to our favorite Bed and Breakfast located in the small town of Columbia NC. It is the perfect place to rest and relax and think. Nothing is rushed. It’s calm and secluded. I can rest here. It’s nice to have the option of doing absolutely nothing! I can read a book, or play a few levels of Fishdom, or watch television, or find a new way to style my locs ON MY OWN! 😁 I can write, get some of my thoughts on paper, or my iPad! I can listen to Justin Timberlake tell me “Let’s Take A Ride”
HOP IN THE CAR
GO WITH ME
YOU DON’T HAVE TO PACK EVERYTHING
DON’T YOU WANNA FEEL THE BREEZE,
AND FORGET EVERYTHING???

Yep! I sure do, and I did!
I met interesting people- a couple from Germany who,just moved to the U.S., a first grade teacher, a musician who’s done it all, from playing all types of instruments, to teaching music to conducting an orchestra at his church! I had the opportunity to break bread with these people. I had some amazing conversations, from bouncing ideas for my classroom to hearing stories from the old days from the older house guests.
I met a woman with breast cancer undergoing chemo. She became my focus. I watched her enjoy her breakfast. Listened to her talk about growing up not too far from the area. We engaged in light conversation. She had a soft laugh, she ate until she was content. She wore comfortable clothes and a beautiful scarf tied in the most cool fashion a top her head. As she quietly left the table, I noticed that she walked slowly, almost cautious, as if she were pushing through her pain. PUSHING PAST HER PAIN. I watched her choose to live!!!
It was an amazing experience. It gave me a fresher perspective. It made me evaluation my own set of circumstances. I love how GOD uses people to show you things. It is one thing to grasp a concept or saying through hearing. It is another thing to live that concept or saying. (2Corinthians 12:7-10)
Here’s the lesson: the purpose of this trip was not to run away from my issues. It was not to make those life issues go away, it was to provide me an outlet for me to cope with them better. I focused on ME and developed a greater appreciation for my life, developed a better understand that these issues won’t magically disappear when I return to them, but I am a little calmer, a little stronger, a little wiser. I can face them and that is one of the best feelings in the world!!!

Hebrews 6:11-19

“We want each of you to go on with the same hard work all your lives so you will surely get what you hope for. We do not want you to become lazy. Be like those who through faith and patience will receive what God has promised. God made a promise to Abraham. And as there is no one greater than God, he used himself when he swore to Abraham, saying, “I will surely bless you and give you many descendants.” Abraham waited patiently for this to happen, and he received what God promised. People always use the name of someone greater than themselves when they swear. The oath proves that what they say is true, and this ends all arguing. God wanted to prove that his promise was true to those who would get what he promised. And he wanted them to understand clearly that his purposes never change, so he made an oath. These two things cannot change: God cannot lie when he makes a promise, and he cannot lie when he makes an oath. These things encourage us who came to God for safety. They give us strength to hold on to the hope we have been given. We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, sure and strong. It enters behind the curtain in the Most Holy Place in heaven.” (Hebrews 6:11-19 NCV)

These verses have seen me through some difficult moments… They show me the promises of GOD… my promises from GOD…. No matter what I’m facing in life… GOD knows exactly where I am…it is always a temporary circumstance… And when I do go through it is never a time to give up… Keep pushing… Keep moving forward! 🙏

Cuts of Life

LIFE COMES AT US FAST…I THINK MOST OF US CAN AGREE WITH THIS…AND AT TIMES WE FIND OURSELVES IN SITUATIONS THAT LEAVE US “CUT” AND CAUSES US TO BLEED…NOW HOW DO WE HANDLE THIS? MOST OF THE TIME WE PUT A BANDAGE ON IT AND KEEP IT MOVING…BUT THE LONGER WE LEAVE THE BANDAGE ON THE OLDER IT GETS MAKING IT USELESS WHICH CAUSES US TO CHANGE IT…SOMETIMES WHEN LIFE CUTS US…THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO ALLOW SOME AIR TO HIT SO THAT IT HEALS PROPERLY…IT DOES TAKE LONGER AND YOU MAY EVEN FEEL NUMB FROM IT…BUT EVENTUALLY IT WILL GET BETTER AND YOU WILL BE ABLE TO FUNCTION NORMALLY!!!

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN???

WHEN WE FIND OURSELVES IN SITUATIONS THAT CAUSE US TO FEEL LIKE WE HAVE SCREWED UP…DON’T HIDE THE PROBLEM OR HIDE FROM IT BECAUSE IT NEVER GOES AWAY…WE TRY TO FIND COMFORTS IN WORLDLY THINGS LIKE SMOKING, DRINKING, SEX, PARTYING AS A WAY TO MASK WHAT WE ARE TRULY GOING THROUGH ONLY TO FIND IT STILL LURKING AROUND WHEN THE HIGH HAS WORN OFF…BUT IF WE LEARN TO GIVE THAT SITUATION TO GOD…HE HAS A WAY OF GETTING TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM IN SUCH A WAY THAT HE DOESN’T COVER IT UP…HE TAKES IT COMPLETELY AWAY AND WE FIND OURSELVES MADE COMPLETELY WHOLE…IT IS THEN THAT WE CAN PICK UP THE PIECES AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD! PEACE!!!

A Word concerning WISDOM

Proverbs 24:3-4- “It takes wisdom to have a good family and it takes understanding to make it strong. It takes knowledge to fill a home with rare and beautiful treasures.”

Hello to all: While reading my bible today I came across this scripture and a read a devotion entitled Five Steps Toward Wisdom so here they are: Enjoy!!!

1. DESIRE WISDOM: What is valuable to God must be valuable to you. Push away from foolishness and toward Godly understand.

2. STUDY WISDOM: Both in written word and in the lives of women and men around you. When you come across wisdom stop and take it in and learn from the words or the person.

3. PRAY: God says if you need wisdom to pray for it. [James 1:6-“But if any of you need wisdom you should ask God for it. He is generous to everyone and will give you wisdom without crticizing you.”] This will come to me as a supernatural gift from God.

4. REMEMBER ETERNITY: Remind yourself that this life is just a vapor compared to the eternity prepared for us by God. When you are tempted to act or think like the world remember what matters for eternity.

5. RUN TO JESUS: To know Jesus is to know wisdom! To know his character is to know how wisdom responds! To know his heart is to know Christ’s wisdom.

Let these words speak directly to your spirit and build your life on wisdom of God… Be Blessed!

Complacency, defined

Blog # 3

Inspired by The Holy Spirit and the great Zora Neale Hurston

My life is compare to a giant tree in leaf
There are things suffered and things enjoyed
Things done and things undone
Dawn and doom have lived in my branches…

I have learned to forget those things I wish not to remember
I remember those things I wish not to forget
My dreams are my truth
I act and do accordingly…

I find myself in constant search of confirmation
Of the vision and the voice…given to me by my father in heaven
I’ve been choosen to witness a great revelation
And everywhere I go I search for answers…

At times I see answers for all of creation
All…except me
I feel my answer seeking me but…
Where? When? How?

I wish to BLOOM
To experience life’s adventure
My leaves are glossy and my buds look promising
But why does life exclude me?

I search as much as I can
From my front door
Waiting…
For my world to be made…

There are so many influences crowding my search
influences that do not speak of blooming flowers
Rather, artificial things and yet, I still see
A chance for change

Where is the answer?
When my dreams are pushed aside
For a glimpse of someone else’s?
When I am conforming to the thoughts of others?

Times and seasons are passing
And though I am complacent with my leaves
A still, small voice whispers
And I am reminded once again
Of my dreams…

Without realizing
Something mysterious take place
and doubt crowds my dreams
Yet…I am intrigued…

My entire existence is challenged
Instantly I am changed
From a bud to a Rose
And my mind inquires how…

Such a dramatic change
And I can not understand its process
I am, however, aware
That a discovery has been made…

And I see GOD… here is PEACE
The horizon in front of me is long
My possibilities are infinite

This new life, this new world
Is draped over my shoulders
Like a blanket of security

And GOD has called my very soul to come witness….

Blog Entries Past pt. 1-Cleaning House

Blog#2

I am always amazed at how GOD molds things together…even as a write this note he is showing and revealing more and more to me and I am truly grateful!!! Before I start let me share with you my motto: “What I say is true and you should fully accept it; Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the worst. But I was given mercy so that in me, the worst of all sinners, Christ Jesus could show that he has patience without limit. His patience with me made me an example for those who would have life forever.” 1Timothy 1:15-16 NCV. I am not sure who this is for but my only job is to be obedient. Here we go……
My sister bestie recommended that I read a book she had entitled, The Shack by William Paul Young. I have to admit this book is the best read thus far in my life. It explains the very essence and nature of GOD in such a way that it becomes a personal journey. There were passages that spoke directly to me and ideas that gave me such clarity. It was mind-blowing! After reading the story, I asked God to show me the point of it all.
While sitting on my sofa, I had a strong desire to clean, which is a norm for me. I have always considered myself an organized person. I fuss over the smallest things and I like things to look a certain way. Whenever my method is thrown off, I find it difficult to function and think clearly. When I began today’s cleaning, it became more intense as I cleaned to the point where my “organized” apartment was totally chaotic!!! Normally, the chaos would have annoyed me, today however it calmed me. This is where GOD answered my prayer…
Although the cleaning senario is very real, it is also a metaphor. My “normal” methods of organization and cleaning represent the ways in which I try to run and dictate my life. No matter how much “I” clean it is only good until it isn’t. In other words, there are times when I get lazy with my “cleaning” and I stop for a while. The first few days I am able to “function” but eventually those things that are out of place, get the best of me. When this happens I try to put everything back in its right place in a very frustrated manner. This is how people are. We spend so much time trying to control our lives and when we actually lose control, we panic and rush to fix things.
It was after I was finished this evening that I realized the reason I was able to clean thoroughly- going through all my bags, throwing away things from my past, and reorganizing only what I needed- was because the Holy Spirit was there to guide me through all of it. That’s what he wants…to guide us through our journey. Only God knows the best way to handle our baggage but it only happens when we listen trust and obey.
The Lesson: I am not quite finished with my cleaning, but I do not feel compelled to finish all at once. This is because I realize that life is an on-going journey and we will never completely arrive at the place God wants us to be. It is a learning process…it is a growing process… It is a guiding process. God never said we wouldn’t have obstacles, what he did say was that his grace was sufficient enough to get us through them no matter how challenging they may be. With that said, I am looking forward for more house cleaning tomorrow!!! Peace and Blessings… Good night!!!

What’s love got to do with THIS???

My philosophy on love and relationships is as follows:
 
I have not been on this Earth long but in my time thus far i have come to learn a few things about love: You wanna here it? Here it goes:
 
Relationships are simple [yeah that’s right- simple] What makes them hard and complicated? Glad you asked: WE DO!!! WE have a tendency to go into relationships with our own perceptions of what we think the relationship should be and when our significant other does not meet a particular standard we are ready to call it quits. I know that it may sound like a myth- but the key to a successful relationship is to seek counsel from GOD himself. That means being patient and waiting. Let him guide you in the right direction… so that you won’t confuse seasonal people with life time expectations. What do i mean by seasonal people? Well, in his stage play ;Madea Goes To Jail, Tyler Perry says ,during his monologue, that some people come into your life for a season. These are the people who come into your life to teach you one thing.The problem is we get attached to the person and "fall in love" but wonder after some time why is this not working out? 
 
Ladies, you do not have to give your bodies away to find love, we are worth so much more than that!!! SAY AMEN LADIES!!! We should never be afraid to love whether giving or receiving, because we invented it!!! Set a standard for yourself, love yourself first because you can’t love anyone else until you take care of that. No you don’t have to apologize for your feelings and emotions; they deserve to be addressed, but if someone that you are with doesn’t want to take the time to listen, don’t compromise who you are, do what’s best for you, because at the end of the day you are all you have. On the other hand, if you have a good man, TREAT HIM RIGHT!!! stop trying to turn him into something that he isn’t meant to be. Accept him, flaws and all, otherwise set him free so he can find the one he is most compatible with. Be willing to give and much as you are willing to take. Be sure that you show him you love him-without being too pushy or overbearing[say amen fellas].
 
Fellas- please recognize the good in your woman and STOP TAKING HER FOR GRANTED, TRYING TO COME BACK AFTER YOU HAVE BROKEN HER HEART!!! That is unacceptable and not going to work. If you don’t want a relationship please tell her that. WE appreciate honesty, and it takes the pressure off of you to committ to something that you don’t want. Oh yeah, please,please,please-STOP PLAYING THE DUMB ROLE LIKE YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR WOMAN IS TALKING ABOUT! Just listen to her-she may actually have something profound to say. As hard as it may be to believe there is more to life than sports. [i know someone is mad that i said that] Try to tap into another aspect of life and you might be surprised. You also don’t have to front like you don’t get mushy about your woman and it is okay to show this every once in a while. Learn her likes and dislikes and accept her flaws and all as well. If there is something that you have an issue with tell her because your voice should be heard as well!!! if she is stubborn make her listen. [and you can do this WITHOUT putting your hands on her]. We all have feelings and we all need to keep this in mind when we deal with each other. 
 
For those of us in a relationship- There are difficult days and i know that at some point one or both of you want to get out. i recommend prayer. Let God show you what to do. Look at the good things and remember why you fell in love in the first place. if that is no longer enough, bow out gracefully, but if he or she is worth it- hold on!!!
 
TO those looking for love: stop looking, keep living and stay focused on GOD and HE will SEND you the love of your life.
 
I am not perfect, nor do i try to be, what i am is a woman that seeks after the heart of GOD. he is my guide my comforter and because he is the head of my life, He is molding me into a beautiful, strong, Christian woman! He is taking care of everything else!!! 
 
and who knows…you might just end up with that perfect one…not perfect as in no mistakes…but perfect as in just what you need…i did and it is the best thing in the world…and if i can find it so can you!!!
PEACE AND BLESSINGS TO ALL THAT READ THIS!